Here is our exclusive interview with TT Srinath, an author who recently published his book “Creating Winning Relationships through Conversations with Self” with Notionpress.
I spent the first 25 odd years of my working life as an entrepreneur. When my business suffered owing to several factors, I recognised on hindsight that if I had embraced my colleagues and employees in a more engaging and holistic way, perhaps they would have stood by me as I hacked my way through the forest of loneliness and despondency which my failing business pushed me into. I later pursued my education in the ‘Applied Behavioural’ science area which emphasised working with and through people. I commenced writing a column for a reputed national newspaper on challenges and issues that I encountered in relationships and how I believed I could restore, enhance and build many of them. Compelled by this desire to foster relationships I sat and wrote, without specific intent, stories from my life, all of them in some ways circumscribed by the relationships I encountered. Enthused by the column, which was gaining visibility and traction I sat and wrote my book. Thus the impetus for writing the book came from the endorsement, encouragement and support I received from all those who read and appreciated my column.
This is a chatty book, with stories and live examples. It talks about the challenges that we face while relating with others and aspects that can positively influence relationships. This broadens the perspective of the reader and helps one choose how the individual would like to enhance self as well as relationships.
Increasingly I am recognising that both in the middle term and long haul it is only relationships that will cradle us as we trudge through life. Relationships if fostered will help us feel whole and complete. I recognise that my whole existence is defined by the relationships I have, with myself, with those I meet and encounter, with the social system I am part of and with my understanding of God and the Universal Spirit.
Largely from people who shared their stories with me, from books that talked about recognising the need for relating and my own journey as I coursed through life.
If I recognise that I have nothing to prove and that I am Life’s longing to be lived as is anybody else; all that I wish to leave behind when I depart this world are memories with people of the joy of our relating and finally the satisfaction of being there for someone else as the many who have been there for me.
You must first enjoy what you are saying through your writing, believe that you have something to contribute which is unique and only you can do it. That you have been blessed and assigned the task of sharing your understanding, wisdom and whatever else you may have to say whether through fiction or non-fiction. That there is no right or wrong in what you say and that you have a point of view to share. Finally don’t judge yourself or be harsh with yourself, writing is a form of self-expression, can be very liberating and in many ways you are in conversation with yourself and your creator and there is no mid-wife to either direct you or audit you.
Now that I have written about relationships as I have seen them play out and experience them I may attempt to share in as interesting a manner as I can my life’s story which I choose to call ‘The story of an ordinary boy.’ The word ‘ordinary’ is a euphemism; for I think that it is because I am ordinary I am human, alive, anticipating, expectant and hopeful. It is my ordinariness as is yours that makes us who we are; in effect we are actually ‘extraordinary.’