Congratulations on your new book “Parenting Reminder” on the behalf of the whole team of Kalaage.. My first question will be what inspired you to write this book? And why did you choose this subject matter?
Thanks a lot team Kalaage.
In the due course of nurturing my two kids and so many more at my leadership centers, I got to hear many challenges that abound in the parenting process. It used to take a lot of my time and effort to resolve issues satisfactorily. Also personally I have crossed that bridge with lot more sanity and traditional wisdom. Hence, thought of writing a few common sense reminders that work as part of this quick book.
What effects does writing have on people?
Writing is liberating indeed! Writing that comes from a place of sharing ideas that create empowering results and are about contributing a value can be a rewarding process. For me it was a very gratifying and joyous experience that stirred so much of enthusiasm, helped to share my knowledge and a dream that had the promise to empower any parent’s world view.
What was the hardest, most challenging part of writing, ‘Parenting Reminder’?
Well the hardest part was to get started. I have been wanting to write but you know putting yourself out for scrutiny can be pretty intimidating. Some well- wishers believed in my wisdom and they inspired me to go ahead.
What theme and subject matter you have in mind for your next book or venture?
When I was writing ‘Parenting Reminders’, I honestly had no plans to go ahead with more books. But the reviews have been so encouraging that I am planning to come up with heartening stories of hope and inspiration for women where parallels are drawn around their daily lives as a lady, a wife, a mother, and so much more that she is.
I also intend to come out with Self-awareness and development workbook for young adults . I am convinced today’s generation is super talented indeed.
What would you say most characterizes your writing?
My writing is so much about the ‘no frills traditional wisdom’ , ‘the common sense approach’ to life and above all a thinking-person’s take on what’s happening around us at home, society and work. I feel it’s practical, engaging and empowering.
You have penned down the answers to some of the most difficult questions about parenting and the struggles it has. How did you simplify such a complex subject matter?
Simplifying a complex subject like ‘parenting’ did not happen in a day. I had access to so many world views by virtue of my work and also because I had groomed hundreds of kids /adults by now I had access to a lot of inputs of the subject. My own parenting along with such varied inputs helped me arrive at many insights.
If you have to give two most important Parenting reminders to the people reading this interview, which two reminders would that be?
I will stick to these two:
1- When you cultivate values of gratitude and charity, you start seeing your kids in a different light.
2-How you handle relationships and treat people is your child’s guide to handle it right.
Praggatti, you are a psychologist and an Advanced Coach cum Leadership Trainer who has worked very closely with young adults and women for a decade now. How well would you say that this formed an understanding that is required to write a self-help book like this one? Can you list a few stories/incidences when you felt like such a book is needed for the Indian readers?
A decade is a long time to be counseling people around challenges. I have used the inputs in my personal life and in extended social circles too. Due to sensitivity of my work I wish not to quote cases but yes the underlying theme has been that there’s always a challenge when the basics of life are compromised or ignored. Traditional wisdom counts big time.
A lots of cases were solved to satisfaction (as per the client feedback) when we raised awareness on simple common sense issues being ignored.
This was definitely a motivation to write a book that could simply remind rather than overload parents with more information.
The book has wonderful, effective, tried and tested reminders for parents, are there any tips you have for the kids as well?
I think the purpose of any family or a setup is flowing from what people at the top are doing or saying. If the parent is doing it right, they have a rapport with the child and this connect, helps in getting the desired results.
Once a parent is able to create that relationship with their children, I don’t see why they wouldn’t listen or do as suggested.
For kids my best advice would be that they should honour their talent and optimize their true potential by prioritizing their education, talent specific activities and creative pursuits for themselves and do it not merely because of others. I wish to tell them that they are blessed to be born talented in one or many areas with big time futuristic skills.
What message do you want to give to the readers? And how do you expect the readers to perceive this book?
My message to anyone picking up this book is very straight forward- “Life is very simple like a game, we over complicate it. To play it well we need to acquire strategies around all that we do”.
One of the simplest strategies is to slow down and see our life, kids, relationships etc. in a balanced perspective. It will solve so many challenges from that moment onwards 🙂
I respect the innate intelligence of my readers and wish that they perceive it as a piece of well-meaning advice and reminders coming from one sane parent to another and coming from a coach who has seen it all and turned it around pretty successfully.
Hope they do it more and do it well.